Brene Brown does a thorough job in her book "Gifts of Imperfection" helping readers to learn the CBT acceptance paradox technique ("The Acceptance Paradox...is arguably the most powerful and important CBT technique of all. Patients tell themselves, 'I'm no good. I'm defective. There must be something wrong with me.' When patients try to argue with these thoughts, that rob them of self-esteem, they often end up feeling even worse. Instead, you can show patients how to defeat or transcend their defectiveness by accepting it. Although this is very simple, it is incredibly difficult, because patients cannot readily distinguish healthy acceptance from unhealthy acceptance, which are radically different." David Burns). Brown helps her readers learn a healthy acceptance. Her premise-- shame doesn't make people better, compassion authenticity and courage make people better--along with tools and tips on how to live a "whole-hearted" life provide valuable insight to readers and inspiration to help them move forward despite limitations. Her work as a researcher and her personal experience gives her assertions a truthful groundwork and a sensitive approach, and there's lots of tidbits of inspiration throughout.
Brown warns: "There are too many books that make promises they can't keep or make change sound so much easier than it is. The truth is that meaningful change is a process. It can be uncomfortable and is often risky, especially when we're talking about embracing our imperfections, cultivating authenticity, and looking the world in the eye and saying 'I am enough.'"
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